WikiWirral its great, register, enjoy and welcome.
Forum Stats
12256 Members
65 Forums
72905 Topics
982921 Posts
155 posts in the last 24hrs
Max Online: 7831 @ 8th Apr 2013 4:18pm
Who's Online - Click Me
92 registered (alan128, 14 invisible), 1869 Guests and 391 Spiders online.
Key: Admin, Global Mod, Mod
Social Media : Follow Us


(Views 7days)This Weeks Most Read
Boom : New Ferry Explosion 2569
Death at Leasowe Train Station 506
Huge Gas Explosion in New Ferry Sat 25/03/17 438
Planet Earth Tonight 282
Has Talktalk been hacked yet again? 259
Snowhite's Bird Rescue 211
Reclaimed floorboards needed. 211
Activate Trip Computer on Astra J 108
Another Terrorist Attack ? -London Islington 106
KEYS found 81
New General Forums
hi
by norma67
26th Mar 2017 7:42pm
Clocks go Forward
by Mark
25th Mar 2017 3:01pm
Mannequin Challenge AKA MRI Scan
by fish5133
24th Mar 2017 11:20am
Surely the most honest add.....
by buddy
20th Mar 2017 5:43pm
New Wirral History
William Bernard's building, Birkenhead
by yoller
20th Mar 2017 4:27pm
1882 Plan of the borough of Birkenhead and Wards
by Dave_Wood
19th Mar 2017 11:57am
New Brighton Coop
by Mike_White
9th Mar 2017 12:48pm
Tranmere High School for Girls 1882 Chesnut Grove
by sarah708
6th Mar 2017 8:23pm
Whetstone Lane, Birkenhead
by MoretonExpat
6th Mar 2017 8:04am
Forum Tips
Photo Gallery Forums
Birkenhead Transport Museum 24th Feb 2017
fireworks on the Mersey last night
Topic Replies
live webcam from africa, a must see
by granny
Today at 01:24 AM
Article 50
by granny
Yesterday at 11:13 PM
Activate Trip Computer on Astra J
by chris123
Yesterday at 08:53 PM
Will It Work For You
by granny
Yesterday at 08:12 PM
Sky HD 2TB box
by chris123
Yesterday at 06:02 PM
Astra Car Mats
by chris123
Yesterday at 05:59 PM
195 65 R15 91H Car Tyre
by chris123
Yesterday at 05:57 PM
hi
by Dilly
28th Mar 2017 11:36pm
'March' Photo Competition.
by snowshoes
28th Mar 2017 10:58pm
March
M Tu W Th F Sa Su
1 2 3 4 5
6 7 8 9 10 11 12
13 14 15 16 17 18 19
20 21 22 23 24 25 26
27 28 29 30 31
Recent Posts : What's On ?
Planet Earth Tonight
by Excoriator
26th Mar 2017 10:31am
Lee and Cragg Quarries - Bacup
by Mark
23rd Mar 2017 7:43am
Topic Options
Rate This Topic
#384334 - 27th Jan 2010 3:00pm To separate or not? Effects on Children
MissGuided Offline

Awesome
Wiki Guardian

Registered: 18th Jul 2008
Posts: 9995
Loc: Back of the wardrobe
Arguing parents upset children more than those who separate

Parents who argue are more likely to make their children unhappy than those who live apart, a report has claimed.

Conflict within a family causes children 10 times more distress than living in single parents households, the study by the Children’s Society concluded.

Of 7,000 children aged 10 to 15 who were surveyed, those who said their family "gets along well together" were found to be on average around 20 per cent happier than those who did not, regardless of their family structure.

By contrast, children living in lone parent households were said to be 2 per cent unhappier than those living with both birth parents.

Bob Reitemeier, chief executive of the Children’s Society, said: “In terms of marriage, this report shows that children living with married couples do report slightly higher levels of wellbeing, but it’s not significant. What really matters to children is that their parents get along, whether they live together or not.”

The findings contradict a 2007 report by the Centre for Social Justice (CSJ), the think tank founded by the former Conservative leader Iain Duncan Smith, which made a clear link between marriage and the wellbeing of children.

The survey, conducted by YouGov, found that children who did not grow up in two-parent families were 75 per cent more likely to fail educationally, 70 per cent more likely to become addicted to drugs, and 50 per cent more likely to develop an alcohol problem.
But Maria Miller, shadow minister for family, said yesterday the that new findings show good relationships in the home are just as important to a child's wellbeing as living with married parents.

"This report highlights yet again that the strength of family life is determined by the relationships within that family. The most important influence on our childhood is the family we grow up in. Good parenting and good relationships between parents is critical in shaping the next generation," she said.

The new findings from the Children's Society, in collaboration with the University of York, have been released a year on from the publication of the Good Childhood Inquiry, a landmark independent report into modern childhood commissioned by children's charity.

Source
_________________________


Top
Lifestyle : Advertising
Click me for more Information......

WikiWirral Numbers : Between 150 and 200 New Members Every Month. With Over 3,500 unique visits and 35,000 Page Views each day. Average +500 Search Engines Daily and over 1,000,000 Million Page views a Month. Advertising from £20 . Click Me
#384406 - 27th Jan 2010 10:16pm Re: To separate or not? Effects on Children [Re: MissGuided]
Wench Offline

H4H County Volunteer
Wiki Veteran

Registered: 9th Aug 2008
Posts: 8616
Loc: Second Circle of Hell.
I always say it's better for children to have parents who don't live together and are happy than parents that stay together "for the kids" and are miserable!!

People think that kids are unable to understand or see that their parents are not happy. It doesn't matter how hard you try to hide it, kids are not stupid!! They can pick up on it from an early age.

Personally, I think it does more damage than good when couples stay together. JMPO.

I have a friend whose husband is verbally and physically abusive to her. She stays "for the kids". I've explained to her that she is showing her son that it's ok for a man to treat a woman this way and showing her daughter that it's acceptable behaviour too!! What kind of chance do they stand with role models like that!?!

I can't live her life for her, I know that, but it breaks my heart to see those kids suffering - because that is what it is IMO.

It's something I feel strongly about so make no apologies for my opinions. Some of you may know that I am unable to have children, those that didn't do now raftl

I think children are a precious gift and should always come first - if you are in an unhappy relationship or an abusive/destructive relationship GET OUT OF IT FOR YOUR KIDS SAKE!!! Show them that it's NOT acceptable and show them that it's a good thing to be strong and walk away. They, and you, will respect you more for it in the long run.

I'm going to get off my soapbox now, before I bust a bloodvessel.
_________________________
Sometimes Police Officers give more than just speeding tickets!

It’s hard to be fit as a fiddle when you’re shaped like a cello!

Top
#384421 - 27th Jan 2010 11:23pm Re: To separate or not? Effects on Children [Re: Wench]
_jase_
Unregistered


Originally Posted By: Wench
it's better for children to have parents who don't live together and are happy than parents that stay together "for the kids" and are miserable!!



withthat yes

Top
#411675 - 27th May 2010 2:14am Re: To separate or not? Effects on Children [Re: Wench]
Petal Offline
Enthusiast

Registered: 14th Nov 2008
Posts: 195
Loc: Birkenhead
I always say it's better for children to have parents who don't live together if they aren't happy than parents that stay together "for the kids sake" and are miserable!!
I think children are a precious gift and should always come first whatever but not always the way in some cases the male moves straight into another relationship take the role of being a dad to a strange child/Children & push there own child/children to one side and that's all i seem 2 hear now days where have all the good guys gone. It's the child/children that suffer mental torch-er, heart breaking it is to watch i say get a grip..

ANY D*CK CAN MAKE A Baby BUT IT TAKES A MAN TO BE A DADDY!

withthat

Top
#411687 - 27th May 2010 8:45am Re: To separate or not? Effects on Children [Re: Petal]
_Ste_ Offline


Wiki Master

Registered: 7th Aug 2005
Posts: 15988
Loc: New Brighton
Originally Posted By: Petal
I always say it's better for children to have parents who don't live together if they aren't happy than parents that stay together "for the kids sake" and are miserable!!
I think children are a precious gift and should always come first whatever but not always the way in some cases the male moves straight into another relationship take the role of being a dad to a strange child/Children & push there own child/children to one side and that's all i seem 2 hear now days where have all the good guys gone. It's the child/children that suffer mental torch-er, heart breaking it is to watch i say get a grip..

ANY D*CK CAN MAKE A Baby BUT IT TAKES A MAN TO BE A DADDY!

withthat


oh fookoff!

You DOCKERS shouldn`t drive the men away in the first place!
And over the taking a role of being a dad to someone elses kids, it comes as a package if you happen to find a DECIENT ladyfriend who has kids!

Live with it or keep your trap shut cos you know SHIT ALL!

no
_________________________


http://www.youtube.com/user/stetopop

Top
#411697 - 27th May 2010 10:36am Re: To separate or not? Effects on Children [Re: _Ste_]
Sanchez Offline

Wiki Veteran

Registered: 17th Dec 2003
Posts: 8019
Loc: my house
my parents stuck together till I was 16. What a crock they should have seperated well before that. I know they were trying to do the right thing, but I feel life would have been better if they seperated earlier.
_________________________
Uncertainty or not knowing causes depression, Im happy because I know I'm going to die one day!

Top
#411706 - 27th May 2010 11:03am Re: To separate or not? Effects on Children [Re: MissGuided]
diggingdeeper Offline

Wiki Guardian

Registered: 9th Jul 2008
Posts: 9895
Loc: Birkenhead
Originally Posted By: Snooze
who said their family "gets along well together" were found to be on average around 20 per cent happier than those who did not, regardless of their family structure.
Quote:
children living in lone parent households were said to be 2 per cent unhappier than those living with both birth parents.
Quote:
found that children who did not grow up in two-parent families were 75 per cent more likely to fail educationally, 70 per cent more likely to become addicted to drugs, and 50 per cent more likely to develop an alcohol problem.

So they are now saying it is ok for a child to be uneducated, a smackhead and an alcoholic as long as their childhood was a bit happier.

The percentages show quite clearly that a two-parent family is better in the long term BY FAR, yet strangely they come to a different conclusion by only looking at the short-term.

Now I wonder why that could be - could it be that the government are looking for some short term savings and that they are planning on reducing the funding for counselling services, family intervention etc, I guess that would be cynical whistle
_________________________
In a time of universal deceit - telling the truth is a revolutionary act. George Orwell

When the debate is lost, slander becomes the tool of the loser. Socrates

Top
#411708 - 27th May 2010 11:10am Re: To separate or not? Effects on Children [Re: Sanchez]
bert1 Offline

Wiki Veteran

Registered: 27th Nov 2008
Posts: 7864
Loc: tranmere
Its pretty pointless parents sticking together for the sake of children if world war 3 breaks out in front of them all the time. If they can live together civilised and in agreement, this can only benefit children and who knows in time reconciliation might be the outcome. The worst is, whichever parent gets custody of the children, they then use that child as a weapon and bargaining chip against the other parent, normally just through vindictiveness and nothing else.
_________________________
God help us,
Come yourself,
Don't send Jesus,
This is no place for children.


Bertieone.

Top
#411721 - 27th May 2010 12:05pm Re: To separate or not? Effects on Children [Re: bert1]
milie Offline
Newbeee

Registered: 25th Jan 2010
Posts: 43
Loc: leasowe
When me and my ex where together all we did was shout at each other and our son would get upset. Since we split over 2 years ago our son became so much happier and me and the ex also get along so much better.

I believe that parents who cant get along with each other should split up its much better for the kids at the end of the day.

Top
#411774 - 27th May 2010 3:04pm Re: To separate or not? Effects on Children [Re: milie]
BandyCoot Offline

Forum Veteran

Registered: 7th Dec 2008
Posts: 5350
Loc: Birkenhead
The outcome of any survey depends on the agenda of the people who are conducting it. Like everything else, kids with mums and dads, kids without mums and dads, mums and dads who are miserable together, mums and dads who are happy together - it's all part of the human condition, always has been, but now they put stuff into a computer and come out with a "result" which coincides with whatever they need to make their money. No experts can agree on anything so it is up to the individual to make their own mind up. I'm speaking as one who has been married to my missus for 44 years, with 4 kids who are all ok and working and not on drugs. It was ok at the beginning but I must have said something on the way to the reception.
_________________________
Birkenhead........ God's own Room 101.

Top
#411794 - 27th May 2010 5:01pm Re: To separate or not? Effects on Children [Re: BandyCoot]
diggingdeeper Offline

Wiki Guardian

Registered: 9th Jul 2008
Posts: 9895
Loc: Birkenhead
Originally Posted By: BandyCoot
It was ok at the beginning but I must have said something on the way to the reception.
You managed to get that far? - lucky man!
_________________________
In a time of universal deceit - telling the truth is a revolutionary act. George Orwell

When the debate is lost, slander becomes the tool of the loser. Socrates

Top
#411863 - 27th May 2010 9:26pm Re: To separate or not? Effects on Children [Re: BandyCoot]
jimbob Offline

Forum Addict

Registered: 26th Nov 2008
Posts: 1544
Loc: Birkenhead
do we assume the reception was after you had the 4 kids then. must say not very many did it that way in those days. he he
_________________________
Ships that pass in the night, seldom seen and soon forgoten

Top

Moderator:  Mod 
Random Wirral Images

Click to View Topic.
Newest Topics
Activate Trip Computer on Astra J
by chris123
Yesterday at 06:06 PM
Will It Work For You
by granny
Yesterday at 08:26 AM
Death at Leasowe Train Station
by Mark
27th Mar 2017 10:02pm
KEYS found
by rocks
26th Mar 2017 11:48pm
hi
by norma67
26th Mar 2017 7:42pm
For Sale & Free
Sky HD 2TB box
by chris123
Yesterday at 06:02 PM
Astra Car Mats
by chris123
Yesterday at 05:59 PM
195 65 R15 91H Car Tyre
by chris123
Yesterday at 05:57 PM
boxed 10 inch tablet for sale
by stumpyduck
26th Mar 2017 7:12pm
various fly reels and boxes of fly's
by brady
25th Mar 2017 10:48am
Featured Member
Registered: 17th Feb 2011
Posts: 65
Newest Members
nickyrob32, GeorgeHand, BoilerEngineer, flipmodefly, Noize
12256 Registered Users
Today's Birthdays
No Birthdays
New Wirral Info
Planet Earth Tonight
by granny
25th Mar 2017 11:50am
Reclaimed floorboards needed.
by Gold_Moon
25th Mar 2017 10:45am
Has Talktalk been hacked yet again?
by Habdab
24th Mar 2017 10:25am
What does this all mean?
by venice
22nd Mar 2017 12:20pm
black contiboard locally?
by fish5133
21st Mar 2017 9:30pm
News : New Topics
Article 50
by granny
Yesterday at 11:13 PM
Death at Leasowe Train Station
by Mark
27th Mar 2017 10:02pm
KEYS found
by rocks
26th Mar 2017 11:48pm
Another Terrorist Attack ? -London Islington
by fish5133
26th Mar 2017 3:03pm
Huge Gas Explosion in New Ferry Sat 25/03/17
by Dogwalker59
26th Mar 2017 10:36am
New Enthusiast Forums
Activate Trip Computer on Astra J
by chris123
Yesterday at 06:06 PM
Will It Work For You
by granny
Yesterday at 08:26 AM
Snowhite's Bird Rescue
by diggingdeeper
26th Mar 2017 2:44am
Offset number plates
by venice
23rd Mar 2017 1:24am
File too large
by Dilly
20th Mar 2017 10:41am
(Views 24hrs)Trending Newest Topics
Activate Trip Computer on Astra J 108
Will It Work For You 79
Article 50 15
Wirral Sunrise Sunset
Sunrise Thu 6:48am
Sunset Thu 7:44pm
Local Time Thu 3:43am
WikiWirral Can . . . .