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The father IS a tax-payer!!!

I can't believe that it's any happier for a child to grow up without one parent and with the inevitable brainwashing that comes with that situation. I really don't know which path is preferable; both are unsatisfactory. Maybe the problem is that couples are too ready to have a child before they know whether they're going to stay together.

Sorry Granny but I find that extremely sexist.

There are many reason for families splitting up , not just violence and all the nasty stuff. Quite often it's affects families who have both parents working rediculous hours and the whole structure of the family life falls apart. There doesn't have to be fighting, argueing or any other mental torment. It just fails ,tragically.some women are required to work, do the housework, help children with homework, shopping, washing , cooking etc., after school activities, taxiing them here there and everywhere and then be the sensual partner in bed at night. For goodness sake, lets be honest about this, the poor mums are worn out . Thats when things start to go wrong, I believe. The husband/partner then starts to feel rejected and quite often makes it worse by straying and there are plenty of young unattached girls out there, ready to take advantage.
Thats my opinion anyway.

There are many reason for families splitting up , not just violence and all the nasty stuff. Quite often it's affects families who have both parents working rediculous hours and the whole structure of the family life falls apart. There doesn't have to be fighting, argueing or any other mental torment. It just fails ,tragically.some women are required to work, do the housework, help children with homework, shopping, washing , cooking etc., after school activities, taxiing them here there and everywhere and then be the sensual partner in bed at night. For goodness sake, lets be honest about this, the poor mums are worn out . Thats when things start to go wrong, I believe. The husband/partner then starts to feel rejected and quite often makes it worse by straying and there are plenty of young unattached girls out there, ready to take advantage.
Thats my opinion anyway.

Agreed but most women with any sense would not jeopardize an already good marriage if she thought she would end up on her own providing for the children. Big gamble to take.

You need to talk to more women then. See what they have to say.

Hey- ho, as long as it saves the tax-payer a few quid-


How are children affected by domestic violence ?
The majority of children witness the violence that is occurring, and in 90% of cases they are in the same or next room (Hughes, 1992). Children can 'witness' domestic violence in many different ways. For example, they may get caught in the middle of an incident in an effort to make the violence stop. They may be in the room next door and hear the abuse or see their mother's physical injuries following an incident of violence. They may be forced to stay in one room or may not be allowed to play. They may be forced to witness sexual abuse or they may be forced to take part in verbally abusing the victim. All children witnessing domestic violence are being emotionally abused.



Are the effects the same for every child?

Children can experience both short and long term cognitive, behavioural and emotional effects as a result of witnessing domestic abuse. Each child will respond differently to trauma and some may be resilient and not exhibit any negative effects.

Children's responses to the trauma of witnessing DV may vary according to a multitude of factors including, but not limited to, age, race, sex and stage of development. It is equally important to remember that these responses may also be caused by something other than witnessing domestic violence, and therefore a thorough assessment of a child's situation is vital.

Children are individuals and may respond to witnessing abuse in different ways. These are some of the effects described in a briefing by the Royal College of Psychiatrists (2004):

They may become anxious or depressed
They may have difficulty sleeping
They have nightmares or flashbacks
They can be easily startled
They may complain of physical symptoms such as tummy aches
They may start to wet their bed
They may have temper tantrums
They may behave as though they are much younger than they are
They may have problems with school
They may become aggressive or they may internalise their distress and withdraw from other people
They may have a lowered sense of self-worth
Older children may begin to play truant or start to use alcohol or drugs
They may begin to self-harm by taking overdoses or cutting themselves
They may have an eating disorder
Children may also feel angry, guilty, insecure, alone, frightened, powerless or confused. They may have ambivalent feelings towards both the abuser and the non-abusing parent.

You need to talk to more women then. See what they have to say.

There are many reason for families splitting up , not just violence and all the nasty stuff. Quite often it's affects families who have both parents working rediculous hours and the whole structure of the family life falls apart. There doesn't have to be fighting, argueing or any other mental torment. It just fails ,tragically.some women are required to work, do the housework, help children with homework, shopping, washing , cooking etc., after school activities, taxiing them here there and everywhere and then be the sensual partner in bed at night. For goodness sake, lets be honest about this, the poor mums are worn out . Thats when things start to go wrong, I believe. The husband/partner then starts to feel rejected and quite often makes it worse by straying and there are plenty of young unattached girls out there, ready to take advantage.

Agreed but most women with any sense would not jeopardize an already good marriage if she thought she would end up on her own providing for the children. Big gamble to take.