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#670537 - 26th Feb 2012 1:57am Badly behaved child
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What do you do when your friend has a child that is so obnoxious, you dread her coming with the child to your home? The child is rude and disrespectful, touches all the electrical stuff in the house ( telly, dvd, xbox, computer, keyboard) when they have been told not to, lounges on the furniture putting filthy shoes on the couch, whinges, screams and whines that they're bored, constantly interrupts adult conversation and is just very badly behaved. The child has insulted my (adult) children with totally inappropriate comments (which made me want to beat the child with a bat to be honest) I love my friend dearly, but am not sure how to tackle this issue and it's making me not want to ask her round to mine because her child really makes me very angry. Any tips on what I should do, or should I just grin and bear the situation?

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#670542 - 26th Feb 2012 7:03am Re: Badly behaved child [Re: Glade]
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why not meet in the park on a good day or indoor play area on a bad day so that the child has something to do why you chat, I would also sugest a friend for the child, all children can be devils when board, if you meet away from the house you can walk away without seeming rude

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#670543 - 26th Feb 2012 7:12am Re: Badly behaved child [Re: Glade]
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#670544 - 26th Feb 2012 7:23am Re: Badly behaved child [Re: Glade]
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In my house it's my rules and I'm lucky that none of my friends have had any problems with me putting their children on my naughty step or telling their kids they'll get a smacked arse if they carry on (never had to do that one because the threat has always been enough) of course I've asked my friends permission before telling their children off and if anyone had said no they would have been asked to leave...as I said it's my house & my rules...hopefully you're able to ask your friend do they mind if you handle this your way...as long as your way isn't the baseball bat...they may have a problem with that one haha

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#670548 - 26th Feb 2012 8:57am Re: Badly behaved child [Re: Glade]
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i have seven sons and they are all pretty much well behaved if my friends visit with thier children i expect them to behave too!i go by the rule that if other peoples kids do something i wouldnt allow my children to do in the house then they get told off for it the same as my children would!why should you have to put up with that in your own home.
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#670551 - 26th Feb 2012 9:17am Re: Badly behaved child [Re: lauralou2]
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Lauralu is right its your house and your rules. Im baffled as to why the childs mum doesn't say anything . If the mum dislikes you telling her child of for misbehaving in your home. Then i would tell her not to come anymore. To be honest this is why we have so many crimes going on at the mo. Because parents dont chastise their kids at an early age and they dt know right or wrong. Cant you go to her house instead or meet on neutral ground like the park or open space. You and friend could walk and talk the kid can run his energies off in the fresh air.

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#670563 - 26th Feb 2012 10:03am Re: Badly behaved child [Re: Glade]
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Glade how old is this child , smile and does the mum speak nice to the child or shout ?

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#670568 - 26th Feb 2012 10:14am Re: Badly behaved child [Re: Glade]
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Bang super nanny on while they are round as a little hint.

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#670573 - 26th Feb 2012 10:34am Re: Badly behaved child [Re: Glade]
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sounds to me like the mother need to be educated how raise children

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#670591 - 26th Feb 2012 12:09pm Re: Badly behaved child [Re: Glade]
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maybe the parent of the child is embarassed by the behaviour of the child and doesn't want to be seen to be telling the child off!!!on the other hand maybe its the parent and yourself who are in the wrong?i mean if you want to meet up to have a chat ect maybe you should do it in a child family area??if you dont like things being touched in your house then it seems cruel to take a child there and expect it to sit on its hands!!!we've all been kids!!

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#670595 - 26th Feb 2012 12:24pm Re: Badly behaved child [Re: Glade]
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Nightmare Glade! Songbird seems to have a good idea, as there is nothing worse than a bored child. The child may have already expressed to her mum that she's not happy about visiting you, (because she's bored) and of course if the adults are talking between themselves and she doesn't have her mother's attention, well it's a recipe for naughtiness. I don't believe that any child is perfect, far from it, but they are different. Personally I would also intervene and make the child understand that YOU are not happy with the behaviour, sometimes it has more impact coming from someone else. All that's needed is something like 'I am not happy with the things you do in my house' . The child will probably winge and the parent be taken back a step, but it will no doubt get a message across and the child will definitely remember. Then you can get a lollipop out and include the child for a while. Just don't talk about certain adult stuff...that's not always good and earwigging can lead to a lot of damage. Even if you don't think they know what you are talking about, they usually have a good idea and that makes them worse.
Park is a really good idea.
Can't say I'm the expert as all children and situations are different but that's the way I see it. Hope it helps.
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#670603 - 26th Feb 2012 12:42pm Re: Badly behaved child [Re: lansyp]
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Baseball bat !


Was thinking the same myself lol

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#670626 - 26th Feb 2012 2:08pm Re: Badly behaved child [Re: pokerchamp]
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Originally Posted By: pokerchamp
on the other hand maybe its the parent and yourself who are in the wrong?i mean if you want to meet up to have a chat ect maybe you should do it in a child family area??if you dont like things being touched in your house then it seems cruel to take a child there and expect it to sit on its hands!!!we've all been kids!!


This. Is the kid expected to sit in silence while you 2 spend the afternoon chatting? GL with that ..
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#670629 - 26th Feb 2012 2:43pm Re: Badly behaved child [Re: Glade]
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i find it hurrendous that parents blame the kids!!!its up to the parents to keep them occupied!!why not meet in a soft play somewhere,there is tea and coffee facilities while the child gets to play while you get to chat!!and i bet the childs mother doesn't bring toys around to yours to keep it occupied!!!

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#670646 - 26th Feb 2012 3:40pm Re: Badly behaved child [Re: Glade]
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my friend does tell her child off (as do I), but it makes no difference. even when I go to her house the child is badly behaved and rude and they have all the toys and activities there for their amusement. The child does have a DS or something when they come to mine, so it's not like there's nothing to occupy them.
Then what I find funny is when I'm about to leave their house or vice versa, the child gets upset and doesn't want to go or let me go home! I have thought recently that this child is going to be a problem later in life, yes we've all been kids and yes I have kids too, now grown up but you can tell when a child is just being a child as opposed to taking it past the point of just childish behaviour.
By the way, the child is 10 years old and I believe, now old enough to know how to behave when in someone elses house.

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