Split with wife of 3.5 years at end of march 2010. We had been trying for children for 3 years and ended up having IVF, had the last session on the last day of march and split a day after.
She was pregnant a month later and said it was not mine, then told me a load of dates for scans ect that I later found out was a lie. I spoke to her and she said she would do a DNA test once it was born.
Now she wont speak to me, wont reply to any messages, her family wont help ect....
Without going on Jeremy kyle (never ever i my life would i do that), what are my options?
Do you have parental responsibility for the child? Has any maintenance been requested from you? It may sound strange, but is there a chance of you getting back together or are you looking at divorce? You can go down the private testing route, but should you end up going to Court with a divorce and custody/acces/finances etc then you may find that it won't be allowed as evidence as it has to be from a specific list of accredited bodies for paternity testing.
You need to find out if your name is on the birth certificate.
As for the suggestion of taking a dummy or hair - don't do it! Just because they do it on CSI and other TV shows, doesn't make it legal. Only those who have parental responsibility for the child are able to give permission for the childís DNA to be used in the test (Human Tissue Act 2004 s2(3)).
Although most people can understand a potential father wanting a DNA test to find out if it's Ďhisí child, the Courts may not take the same view. The Judge may view you as having acted in an underhanded way if you have gone behind the motherís back. And, if you donít have parental responsibility for the child, you may face a criminal charge.
My advice is to find a Family Solicitor.